The effect Criteria of Mate-Selection on Emotional Needs of Married Couples

Year 2024, Volume: 7 Issue: 3, 502 - 512, 25.05.2024

Al-dowsari Haifa, Sh Al-farraj Hanan, A Meiri, El Waleed Aa Khatatbeh, Yahya, M Waed Mistarihi

https://doi.org/10.33438/ijdshs.1418077

Abstract

Background and Aims: Partner selection has emerged as an important topic and research direction in behavioral ecology. This study aimed at determining life partner selection factors affect married couples' emotional requirements. Methods: Three hundred eighty-seven couples joined. For an efficient sample, we removed four individuals, owing to neglect and inadequate effort to answer survey items, from 383 people. The population was 25–45 years old, with 171 men and 212 women. Results: The mean and standard deviations for couples' Marital selection criteria (CMS) and emotional needs scale (ENS) were (49.6), psychological (10.5), and religious (5.36). Couples had high ENS (50.98). No indirect relationship existed between gender, number of children, (CMS) choice satisfaction, (ENS) among married couples, and (ENS) satisfaction. Child count and marital choice variables are directly and statistically associated with ENS satisfaction in married couples. The direct and indirect linkage model demonstrated that CMS and children had a statistically significant influence on married couples' ENS. There were no statistically significant differences in the criteria for choosing a life partner and satisfying (ENS) married couples by gender. However, education level affected intellectual, religious, physical, and formal dimensions and the total score. Education level did not affect favoring postgraduate education when meeting emotional needs. Conclusion: Despite the differences in some points of view between both genders about considering the criteria for choosing a future spouse, according to all participants, it was important for the participants to include psychological, cultural, familial, and social criteria for choosing a mate‐selection

Keywords

Marital selection criteria (CMS), The emotional needs scale (ENS), couples

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