YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME

Gözde Yılmaz

YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME

Öz

Samimiyet ve karşılıklı bağımlılık ile karakterize edilen yakın kişilerarası ilişkiler insanların sevgi, aidiyet ve sosyal destek ihtiyaçlarını karşılaması sebebiyle hayati öneme sahiptir. Ancak yakın kişilerarası ilişkiler bireyleri sevdiklerinin karşısında savunmasız hale getirdiği için onları incitme potansiyeline de sahiptir. Kişilerarası ilişkilerde oldukça sık deneyimlenen incinme, iletişim aracılığıyla uyandırılan bir duygudur. İncitici iletişimin yol açtığı incinmiş duygular, kişilerin müteakip etkileşimlerini şekillendirmekte ve önemli ilişkisel sonuçlara yol açmaktadır. Yabancı yazında hak ettiği ilgiyi görmesine rağmen Türkçe kişilerarası iletişim yazınında duygusal incinmeye yol açan iletişim yeterince ele alınmamıştır. Bu makale, Türkçe kişilerarası iletişim yazınındaki bu boşluğu incitici iletişim ve incitici iletişime verilen tepkiler bağlamında yapılan yazın taramasıyla kuramsal açıdan aydınlatmayı amaçlamaktadır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

İncitici İletişim, İncinmiş Duygular, Kişilerarası İletişim, Yakın Kişilerarası İlişkiler, Duygular

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Ayrıntılar

Birincil Dil

Türkçe

Konular

İletişim ve Medya Çalışmaları

Bölüm

Derleme

Yazarlar

Gözde Yılmaz ^*
0000-0003-4929-7434
Türkiye

Yayımlanma Tarihi

30 Nisan 2021

Gönderilme Tarihi

30 Ocak 2021

Kabul Tarihi

21 Mart 2021

Yayımlandığı Sayı

Yıl 2021 Sayı: 8

IZ

https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS

APA

Yılmaz, G. (2021). YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME. Ege Üniversitesi İletişim Fakültesi Medya ve İletişim Araştırmaları Hakemli E-Dergisi, 8, 91-123. https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS

AMA

1.Yılmaz G. YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME. Egemia Dergisi. 2021;(8):91-123. https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS

Chicago

Yılmaz, Gözde. 2021. “YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME”. Ege Üniversitesi İletişim Fakültesi Medya ve İletişim Araştırmaları Hakemli E-Dergisi, sy 8: 91-123. https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS.

EndNote

Yılmaz G (01 Nisan 2021) YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME. Ege Üniversitesi İletişim Fakültesi Medya ve İletişim Araştırmaları Hakemli E-Dergisi 8 91–123.

IEEE

[1]G. Yılmaz, “YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME”, Egemia Dergisi, sy 8, ss. 91–123, Nis. 2021, [çevrimiçi]. Erişim adresi: https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS

ISNAD

Yılmaz, Gözde. “YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME”. Ege Üniversitesi İletişim Fakültesi Medya ve İletişim Araştırmaları Hakemli E-Dergisi. 8 (01 Nisan 2021): 91-123. https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS.

JAMA

1.Yılmaz G. YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME. Egemia Dergisi. 2021;:91–123.

MLA

Yılmaz, Gözde. “YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME”. Ege Üniversitesi İletişim Fakültesi Medya ve İletişim Araştırmaları Hakemli E-Dergisi, sy 8, Nisan 2021, ss. 91-123, https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS.

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1.Gözde Yılmaz. YAKIN KİŞİLERARASI İLİŞKİLERDE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİM VE İNCİTİCİ İLETİŞİME VERİLEN TEPKİLER ÜZERİNE KURAMSAL BİR İNCELEME. Egemia Dergisi [Internet]. 01 Nisan 2021;(8):91-123. Erişim adresi: https://izlik.org/JA34KM69GS