The Unbearable Lightness of Friendship Homosociality and the “Crisis of Masculinity”

Year 2016, Issue: 6, 7 - 29, 22.08.2017

Frank G. Karioris Karioris

Abstract

Over the past 30 years in the US there has
been a lot of discussion around boys’ and men’s friendships, or the lack
thereof. Not only are men, we are told, lacking in friendships, but these
friendships are also lacking in affection, emotion, and depth. This so-called
crisis is deeply intertwined with the broader social, political, and economic
crisis having an impact on boys’ lives. This article will seek to elaborate on
the importance of homosociality in discussions of crisis and will be examine
friendships in light of these changing relational possibilities. The
masculinity model put into place by the ‘crisis’ discourse is premised on a
version of masculinity that is competitive and aggressive. In examining
homosociality and crisis, this article will present two individual case studies
who showcase the ways that the crisis narrative is misleading and does not
provide a true picture of the complexity of men’s relationships.

Keywords

Mixed marriages, Christian-Muslim couples, Muslim masculinity

Arkadaşlığın Dayanılmaz Hafifliği: Homososyallik ve "Erkeklik Krizi"

Abstract

Geçtiğimiz 30 yıl boyunca
Amerikan literatüründe oğlan çocuklarının ve erkeklerin arkadaşlığı veya
arkadaşlığın eksikliği üzerine birçok tartışma yürütüldü. Erkeklerin arkadaşlık
kurma açısından eksikliğinin yanı sıra bizlere erkeklerin kurdukları arkadaşlık
ilişkilerinde derinlik, duygu ve yakınlık eksikliği olduğu da söylendi. Bu
sözde kriz, oğlan çocuklarının hayatında etkili olan geniş çaplı sosyal,
politik ve ekonomik krizlerle birbirine karışmış durumdadır. Bu makale,
homososyalliğin bahsi geçen kriz üzerindeki etkisini detaylandıracak ve
arkadaşlığı değişen bu ilişkisel olasılıklar ışığında inceleyecektir.
"Kriz" söylemiyle ortaya konan erkeklik modeli rekabetçi ve agresif
bir erkeklik versiyonunu temel almaktadır.  Bu bağlamda, bu makale kriz
söylemlerinin ve anlatımlarının ne kadar yanıltıcı bir yol gösterdiği ve erkek
ilişkilerindeki karmaşıklığı doğru yansıtmadığını gösteren iki adet bireysel
vaka çalışması sunarak homososyalliği ve erkeklik krizini inceleyecektir.

Keywords

karma evlilik, hristiyan-müslüman eşler, müslüman erkeklik

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