Affedicilik İlişkisel Bir Süreç: Araştırma ve Yansımalar

Judith Anderson; Hüseyin İbrahim Yeğin

Yıl 2013, Cilt: 30 Sayı: 30, 211 - 234, 01.12.2013

Öz

Through qualitative research based on interviews, I describe how psychoanalytic practitioners perceive forgiveness, a complex subject with cultural, religious and political associations. They see it as important, and sometimes at the heart of the psychoanalytic endeavour. Analytic thinking has enriched what is essentially a concept determined by religions and cultures. The development of the capacity to forgive requires consciousness and empathy, for both self and other, and the need for appropriate metabolizing of aggression.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Forgiveness, revenge, relational

Kaynakça

‘müşterek hak arayışı ve hak tanıma’ olarak adlandırır. Onun bu
fikrini konu üzerinde çalışırken sürekli aklımda tuttum. Teşekkür
Siyasi işkence mağduru ile yaptığım mülâkat, affetme fikrini
bir lütuf derecesine yükseltti. Bu konu üzerinde çalışmak bir lütuftu
ve araştırmada yer alan meslektaşlarıma, özellikle danışmanım Dr.
Jacques China’a minnettarım.
Bu çalışma, 8 Ocak 2007 yılında 53 yaşında vefat eden Kuzey
İrlandalı politikacı David Ervine’e adanmıştır. Pek çoğumuzun
uzlaşma ve affetme konusunda olabileceğinden çok daha iyi bir
noktadaydı, hatta ‘Uzman’dan da öteydi.
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