Tek Ebeveynli Çocukların Yaşam Deneyimleri

Year 2018, Volume: 15 Issue: 2, 80 - 98, 08.11.2018

S. Armağan Köseoğlu , Yelda Yıldız

Abstract

Araştırmanın amacı, tek ebeveynli çocukların aile yaşantılarına ilişkin duygu, düşünce, deneyimlerinin ve yaşantılarına etkisinin çocukların anlatıları aracılığıyla ortaya konmasıdır. Araştırmada yöntemsel olarak, fenomenolojik bakış açısı tercih edilmiştir. Ölçüt örnekleme yöntemiyle oluşturulan çalışma grubunda 11 boşanma ve 10 ölüm sonucu tek ebeveynli çocuk yer almıştır. Bu araştırmada betimsel analiz ve içerik analizi kullanılarak veriler çözümlenmiştir. Araştırmanın amacı kapsamında, katılımcılarla yarı yapılandırılmış görüşme yapılmıştır. Sonuçta; boşanma sonrası her iki ebeveyniyle/ birlikte kaldığı ebeveyniyle olumlu ilişkiye sahip, yaşam standartlarında önemli bir değişiklik yaşamayan ve ebeveynleri/ebeveyni tarafından ihtiyaçları karşılanan katılımcıların olumlu yaşam deneyimlerine sahip olduğu ancak bunların yaşanmadığı durumlarda ise olumsuz yaşam deneyimlerinin ortaya çıktığı belirlenmiştir.  Ölüm sonucu tek ebeveynli çocuklarda, yas sürecini sağlıklı yaşayan, hayatta kalan ebeveyni tarafından ihtiyaçları karşılanan, yaşam standartlarında önemli değişiklik yaşamayan, aile içi ve sosyal destek görenlerin olumlu yaşam deneyimlerine sahip olduğu ancak bunların gerçekleşmediği durumlarda ise olumsuz deneyimlerin ortaya çıktığı belirlenmiştir. 

Keywords

Tek ebeveynlik, Tek ebeveynli çocuk, Boşanma, Ölüm

Life Experiences of Single-Parent Children

Abstract

The aim of this study is to reveal single-parented children’s feelings, ideas, and experiences through their narratives. A phenomenological perspective was chosen for this study. 21 children raised by a single parent (q1 as the result of divorce, and 10 as the result of death) were chosen using the criterion sampling-method. In this study, data were analyzed using descriptive analysis and content analysis. Semi-structured interviews were held with the participants within the scope of the research. As a result, it was seen that those whose life experiences were favorable were the ones who had the best relations with both parents or the parent with whom they lived; who experienced no significant change in their standard of living after divorce, and whose parents responded appropriately to their needs. When these factors were not present, negative life experiences were reported. Furthermore, those children with positive life experiences whose parent was widowed were those who had been able to grieve in a healthy way, and whose needs were responded to successfully by their remaining parent; those who had insufficient family and social support reported negative experiences. 

 

Keywords

Single parenting, Single-parented child, Divorce, Death

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