Investigation of Deadly and Caring Habits in Romantic Relationships

Yıl 2022, Cilt: 12 Sayı: 64, 69 - 88, 31.03.2022

Dilek Gençtanırım Kurt Ziya Demir Tunahan Kargı

https://doi.org/10.17066/tpdrd.1096005

Öz

In this study, the aim was to determine which deadly and caring habits, as stated in reality therapy, individuals in the young adult period use in romantic relationships and how they display these habits. The study was completed with 10 couples continuing in a romantic relationship for at least one year. The study with qualitative research pattern used an interview form developed by the researchers as a data collection tool and interviews were performed by the researchers. Interviews were separately held with each member of the couple, for a total of 20 interviews. Interviews were decoded and the closed approach was used in the content analysis process for these codes. Accordingly, two main themes of deadly and caring habits with each containing seven habits in these two categories were identified. This study revealed couples’ caring and deadly habits and how they experience these habits within their relationships.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Reality Therapy, Caring Habits, Deadly Habits, Romantic Relationships

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