Ebeveynler Dinleyici Olduğunda Türk Çocukları Arasında Algılanan anı Paylaşım İşlevlerinin Olay Merkeziyeti ve Öz-Şefkat İlişkisi Üzerindeki Aracılık Etkilerinin Araştırılması

Abstract

Bu çalışma, Türkiye örnekleminde, beliren yetişkinlikte suçluluk anılarının ebeveynler ile paylaşımının öz-şefkat seviyelerini nasıl etkilediğinin altında yatan örüntüleri, özellikle ebeveyn dinlemesine odaklanarak incelemektedir. Bu araştırmanın temel amaçlarından biri cinsiyet temelli bir analiz gerçekleştirerek, anne ve babaların çocukların anlatıları üzerindeki farklı etkilerini karşılaştırmaktır. Bu araştırma beliren yetişkinlik döneminde suçluluk temalı anıların merkeziliği ile öz-şefkat arasındaki ilişkiyi ebeveynler ile paylaşılan anıların algılanan işlevleri (yönlendirici, duygu düzenleme, benlik ve sosyal) aracılığıyla incelemeyi amaçlamaktadır. Aracı analizlerin yanı sıra, dinleyicinin cinsiyetine göre t-testleri yürütülmüştür. Türkiye’deki farklı şehirlerden 308 erkek ve kadın katılımcı çevrimiçi anketleri doldurmuş. Sonuçlar, anı paylaşımında algılanan sosyal işlevinin, beliren yetişkinlikte olay merkeziliği ile öz-şefkat arasındaki olumsuz ilişkiyi tamponlama eğilimindeyken, benlik işlevinin bu olumsuz ilişkiyi yoğunlaştırdığını ortaya koymuştur. Dahası, çoğu katılımcının olumsuz anılarını paylaşırken annelerini dinleyici olarak tercih ettiği gözlenmiştir. Ayrıca, katılımcıların tercih edilen dinleyici baba olduğunda benlik ve yönlendirici anı paylaşım işlevlerini algılama olasılıklarının yükseldiği de elde edilen bulgular arasındadır. Buna karşılık, dinleyici anne olduğunda katılımcıların anı paylaşırken ağırlıklı olarak sosyal işlevi algıladıkları ortaya konmuştur. Sonuçlar literatür ışığında tartışılmıştır.

Keywords

• otobiyografik bellek
• olumsuz anı paylaşımı işlevleri
• dinleyici
• olayın merkeziliği
• öz-şefkat

Investigating the Mediating Effects of Perceived Memory-Sharing Functions on Event Centrality and Self-Compassion Relationship Among Turkish Children When Parents Are the Listeners

Abstract

This study examines patterns underlying how Turkish emerging adults sharing memories of guilt with their parents impacts their self-compassion, with a focus on parental listening. One main objective of this paper is to conduct gender-based analyses comparing the influence of parents, separately mothers' and fathers' impacts as listeners, on their children's outcomes as narrators. This research aimed to investigate the relationship between emerging adult children's event centrality of their guilt memories and their self-compassion scores through perceived functions of memory-sharing with their parents (directive, emotion regulation, self, and social). Besides mediational analyses, t-tests were conducted based on the listener’s gender. 308 Turkish male and female participants from different cities filled online surveys. The results revealed that while the perceived social function of memory-sharing tends to buffer the negative relationship between emerging adults' event centrality and self-compassion, the self-function appears to intensify this negative relationship. Moreover, most participants preferred their mothers as listeners when sharing their negative memories. Furthermore, participants were more likely to perceive self and directive memory-sharing functions when the preferred listener was the father. In contrast, participants predominantly opted for the social function when the listener was the mother. Results are discussed in light of the literature.

Keywords

• autobiographical memory
• negative memory-sharing functions
• listener
• event centrality
• self-compassion

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