Ghosting in Romantic Relationships: Ghost Lover

Abstract

Today, the fact that people of all ages have the ease of accessing various applications via a smart phone or computer brings with it some risks. Technological tools make it easier to start and maintain romantic relationships, and to stay in touch with the partner, as well as making it easier to end the relationship. Ending romantic relationships through technological tools rather than face-to-face communication is a situation we encounter more and more frequently. In this study, the concept of ghosting, which means the unilateral termination of the romantic relationship, has been tried to be explained. Ghosting has defined as a popular disappearance strategy aimed at ending a relationship by withdrawing communication. It seems to be a concept that is not known much but is just starting to become popular. It is known that exposure to ghosting negatively affects the mental health of individuals. The person exposed to ghosting cannot make sense of what happened and experiences disappointment, surprise and confusion. Considering the negative effects of ghosting on individuals, it becomes necessary to explain this concept and reveal its results. Understanding ghosting as a digital dating violence is considered important in terms of taking preventive steps and minimizing the effects of negativities. In this context, in order to understand ghosting well, its theoretical framework should be well presented. In this context, in this study, what ghosting is, its negative effects and research results made with people who apply and are exposed to ghosting are compiled, and it is aimed to create a basic perspective on ghosting.

Keywords

• ghosting
• partner violence
• digital violence
• social media

Romantik İlişkilerde Ghosting: Hayalet Sevgili

Abstract

Günümüzde her yaştaki insanın akıllı telefon ya da bilgisayar üzerinden çeşitli uygulamalara erişim kolaylığına sahip olması bazı riskleri de beraberinde getirmektedir. Teknolojik araçlar romantik ilişkilerin başlamasını, sürdürülmesini, partnerle iletişimde kalınmasını kolaylaştırdığı gibi ilişkinin sonlandırılmasını da kolaylaştırmaktadır. Romantik ilişkilerin yüz yüze iletişimle değil de teknolojik araçlar aracılığıyla bitirilmesi ise her geçen gün daha sık karşılaştığımız bir durum olarak karşımıza çıkmaktadır. Bu çalışmayla romantik ilişkinin tek taraflı olarak sonlandırılması anlamına gelen ghosting (hayaletleşme) kavramı açıklanmıştır. Hayaletleşme, iletişimi geri çekerek bir ilişkiyi sona erdirmeyi amaçlayan popüler bir ortadan kaybolma stratejisi olarak tanımlanmaktadır. Çok fazla bilinmeyen ancak yeni yeni popüler olmaya başlayan bir kavram olarak görünmektedir. Hayaletleşmeye maruz kalmanın bireylerin ruh sağlığını olumsuz olarak etkilediği bilinmektedir. Hayaletleşmeye maruz kalan kişi yaşananlara anlam verememekte, hayal kırıklığı, şaşkınlık ve kafa karışıklığı yaşamaktadır. Hayaletleşmenin bireyler üzerindeki olumsuz etkileri de göz önünde bulundurulduğunda bu kavramın açıklanması ve sonuçlarının ortaya konulması gerekliliği ortaya çıkmaktadır. Bir dijital flört şiddeti olarak hayaletleşmenin anlaşılması, önleyici adımların atılması ve olumsuzlukların etkisinin en aza indirilmesi açısından önemli görülmektedir. Bu kapsamda hayaletleşmenin iyi anlaşılması açısından kuramsal çerçevesinin iyi bir şekilde ortaya konulması gerekmektedir. Bu bağlamda bu çalışmayla hayaletleşmenin ne olduğu, olumsuz etkileri ve ghosting uygulayan ve maruz kalan kişilerle yapılmış araştırma sonuçları derlenmiş, hayaletleşmeye temel bir bakış açısı oluşturmak amaçlanmıştır.

Keywords

• ghosting
• partner şiddeti
• dijital şiddet
• sosyal medya

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