Boşanma mı yoksa Çocuk için Evliliği Sürdürmek mi? Çocuğun Psikolojik Uyumu Açısından Önemli Bir Soru

Year 2016, , 275 - 289, 30.09.2016

Nilgün Öngider Gregory

https://doi.org/10.18863/pgy.238189

Cited By: 2

Abstract

Bu çalışmada, son yıllarda psikolojik sağlık alanında çalışan uzmanların oldukça sık karşılaştığı soru-lardan birine cevap aranmaya çalışılmaktadır. Son yıllarda, sadece dünyada değil ülkemizde de bo-şanma oranında oldukça hızlı bir artış olması nedeniyle bu soru daha fazla önem kazanmaktadır. Bu nedenle, çocuğumuz için evliliğimizi sürdürmek mi yoksa boşanmak mı daha iyi olur sorusu, ebeveyn-ler tarafindan sorulan önemli bir soru haline gelmiştir. Araştırmacılar bu konuda birçok farklı sonuç bildirmektedir. Sadece boşanmanın tek başına etkisi değil, aynı zamanda, ebeveynler arasındaki ilişkinin kalitesine de odaklanılmaktadır. Ebeveynlerin unutmaması gereken önemli nokta, boşanma-nın tek başına çocuğun psikolojik uyumu üzerinde olumsuz bir etkisinin olmadığıdır. Bu durumda, çocuğumuz için evliliğimizi sürdürmek mi, yoksa boşanmak mı daha iyi olur sorusunun cevabı, ebeveynler arasındaki çatışmanın miktarı ve ebeveyn ilişkisinin kalitesinde aranmalıdır. Sonuç olarak, çocukların ruhsal gelişimi için en ideal ortam, ebeveynlerinin her ikisi ile aynı çatı altında yaşadığı ve ebeveynleri arasında az çatışmalı bir ilişkinin olduğu bir aile ortamıdır.

Keywords

boşanma, evlilik, çocuk, ebeveyn çatışması, psikolojik uyum

Divorce or Continue Marriage for Child? An Important Question about Psychological Adjustment of Child

Abstract

Bu çalışmada, son yıllarda psikolojik sağlık alanında çalışan uzmanların oldukça sık karşılaştığı sorulardan birine cevap aranmaya çalışılmaktadır. Son yıllarda, sadece dünyada değil ülkemizde de boşanma oranında oldukça hızlı bir artış olması nedeniyle bu soru daha fazla önem kazanmaktadır. Bu nedenle, çocuğumuz için evliliğimizi sürdürmek mi yoksa boşanmak mı daha iyi olur sorusu, ebeveynler tarafindan sorulan önemli bir soru haline gelmiştir. Araştırmacılar bu konuda birçok farklı sonuç bildirmektedir. Sadece boşanmanın tek başına etkisi değil, aynı zamanda, ebeveynler arasındaki ilişkinin kalitesine de odaklanılmaktadır. Ebeveynlerin unutmaması gereken önemli nokta, boşanmanın tek başına çocuğun psikolojik uyumu üzerinde olumsuz bir etkisinin olmadığıdır. Bu durumda, çocuğumuz için evliliğimizi sürdürmek mi, yoksa boşanmak mı daha iyi olur sorusunun cevabı, ebeveynler arasındaki çatışmanın miktarı ve ebeveyn ilişkisinin kalitesinde aranmalıdır.  Sonuç olarak, çocukların ruhsal gelişimi için en ideal ortam, ebeveynlerinin her ikisi ile aynı çatı altında yaşadığı ve ebeveynleri arasında az çatışmalı bir ilişkinin olduğu bir aile ortamıdır.

Keywords

Boşanma, evlilik, çocuk, ebeveyn çatışması, psikolojik uyum.

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