Romantik İlişkilerde Modern Engel: Partner Sosyotelizmi (Phubbing) Üzerine Bir Derleme

Abstract

Bu çalışmanın amacı sosyotelizm davranışının çift ilişkilerindeki yansımasını alan yazın derlemesiyle ortaya koymaktır. Sosyotelizmin çift ilişkilerine yansıması ise “partner sosyotelizm” olarak isimlendirilmektedir. Partner sosyotelizm kavramı romantik ilişkilerde çiftlerin birlikteyken karşılıklı ilgi göstermeleri gerektiğinde bunun yerine cep telefonlarıyla ilgilenmeleri ve muhatabını görmezden gelmeleridir. Bu davranışsal problem romantik ilişkilerde gittikçe büyük bir sorun haline dönüşerek çift anlaşmazlıklarının önemli bir nedeni olarak belirmektedir. Bu davranışı sergileyen birey partneriyle birlikteyken sık sık cep telefonunu kontrol eder. Telefonları her zaman görebilecekleri bir yerdedir ya da telefonunu ellerinde tutarlar. Ayrıca çiftler arasında kıskançlık kaynaklı problemlere de neden olur. Bu konuda problem yaşayan çiftlerin ilişkilerinden sağladıkları doyum da zamanla azalabilmektedir. Ayrıca yaşanan gerginlikler bireylerin iyilik halini de negatif etkilemektedir. Ortaya çıkardığı olumsuz sonuçlar partner sosyotelizmin ciddi bir problem olarak ele alınması ve her bir bireyin kişisel sorumluluk alması gerektiğini göstermektedir. Telefon ve internet kullanımını hayatımızdan çıkaramasak da bu teknolojileri nasıl doğru kullanacağımızın bilincinde olmak gerekiyor. Ayrıca olumsuz etkilerinden dolayı telefon kullanım alışkanlıkları ve ortaya çıkardığı sosyal sorunlarla ilgili farkındalık oluşturulmalıdır. Aile dinamiklerini de etkileyen bu problemin çiftler tarafından görmezden gelinmemesi gereken bir problem olarak da algılanması gerekmektedir. Oluşan bu farkındalık çift ilişkilerinde yaşanabilecek olumsuzlukların önüne geçebileceği gibi bu yanlış kullanımın ortaya çıkarabileceği diğer riskleri de azaltabilecektir. Böylelikle hayatımızın bir parçası haline gelen ve kullanmanın zorunlu hale geldiği telefonlarımız sorun oluşturmayan bir boyuta taşınabilir.

Keywords

• Phubbing (sosyotelizm)
• partner phubbing
• partner
• ilişki
• iletişim

The Modern Barrier in Romantic Relationships: A Review on Partner Phubbing

Abstract

The aim of this study is to reveal the reflection of phubbing behavior in couple relations with a literature review. The reflection of phubbing on couple relationships is called "partner phubbing". The concept of partner phubbing is defined as romantic couples ignoring each other by dealing with their cell phones instead of showing interest in each other while together. For this reason, this behavioral problem is becoming an increasingly big problem in romantic relationships and emerges as an important cause of couple disagreements. Individuals who exhibit this behavior frequently check their cell phones while they are with their partners. Their phones are always in a place where they can see them, or they hold the phone in their hand. It also causes jealousy problems between couples. In this respect, sometimes there may be a risk for the continuation of the relationship. Relationship satisfaction of couples who have problems in this regard also decreases over time. In addition, the tension experienced negatively affects the well-being of individuals. The negative results it reveals show that partner phubbing should be considered as a serious problem and that each individual should take personal responsibility. Despite all we cannot eliminate the use of telephone and internet from our lives, it is necessary to be conscious of how to use these technologies correctly. In addition, awareness should be created about phone usage habits and the social problems they cause due to their negative effects. This problem, which also affects family dynamics, should be perceived by couples as a problem that should not be ignored. This awareness will not only prevent the negativities that may be experienced in couple relations, but also reduce other risks that may arise from this misuse. Our phones, which have become a part of our lives and become necessary to use, can be moved to a dimension that does not cause problems.

Keywords

• Phubbing
• partner phubbing
• partner
• relationship
• communication

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