Deneye Dayalı Bir Yaklaşım: Gottman Çift Terapisi

Yıl 2021, Cilt: 4 Sayı: 1, 74 - 93, 28.06.2021

Ömer Anlatan

Öz

1970’lerde Gottman’ın çiftleri sistematik olarak gözlemlemeye başlaması ve 1986’da ilk Aşk Laboratuvarı’nın kurulmasından bu yana, Gottman çift terapisi yöntemi pek çok kez deneysel olarak sınanmış ve etkililiği kanıtlanmıştır. Bu çalışmanın amacı Gottman çift terapisinin tarihsel gelişiminin, temel sayıltılarının, Güçlü İlişki Evi Modeli ve Mahşerin Dört Atlısı gibi temel kavramları ile terapötik müdahalelerinin incelenmesidir. Uluslararası alan yazında Gottman yönteminin güçlü ve etkili bir terapi modeli olduğu kanıtlanmış olsa da Türkiye’de bu yöntemin etkililiğe dair herhangi bir çalışmaya rastlanamamıştır. Bu yöntemin aile danışmanlığı ve çift terapisi hizmetlerini yürüten psikolojik danışmanlar ve psikoterapistler tarafından daha çok kullanılmasının faydalı olacağına inanılmakta ve ülkemizde de etkililiğini sınayan çalışmaların artması gerektiği düşünülmektedir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Gottman çift terapisi, gottman yöntemi, çift terapileri

An Experimental Based Approach: Gottman Couple Therapy

Öz

Since Gottman started to observe couples systematically in the 1970s and the foundation of the first love laboratory in 1986, Gottman couple therapy has been experimentally tested numerous times and its effectiveness has been proved. The purpose of this study is to examine the historical development of Gottman couple therapy, its fundamental assumptions, basic concepts such as Sound Relationship House and Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and therapeutic interventions. Although the Gottman method was approved as a robust and effective model of therapy in the international literature, no similar study of its effectiveness was found in Turkey. It is believed that the application of this method in family counseling and couple therapy sessions by psychological counselors and psychotherapists will be beneficial and more studies should be conducted in order to examine the effectiveness of its utilization in our country.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Gottman couple therapy, Gottman method, couple therapies

Kaynakça

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