Romantik ilişkilerde özgün bağlantılar geliştirmede kırılganlığın kilit rolü

Yıl 2022, Cilt: 4 Sayı: 1, 103 - 109, 14.03.2022

Akshıta Bakshi , Shadab Ahmad Ansari

https://doi.org/10.35365/ctjpp.22.1.11

Öz

Son ilişki dinamikleri arasında, Fikrin nüanslarının gelişen bir şekilde anlaşılması koşuluyla, Güvenlik Açığı, ilişkileri gerçekleştirmenin güçlü bir temel yönü olarak ortaya çıkmaktadır. Bu konu, güvenlik açığının özgün ilişkiler kurmada oynadığı rolü anlamaya ışık tutuyor. Makale, ilişkileri etkileyen unsurların her köşesine ve kuytularına dokunarak kavramı derinlemesine araştırıyor. Şimdiye kadar bu alanda yapılan bazı çalışmalar olmuştur ve mevcut literatürü anlamak, yeni bakış açıları ortaya koyarak, daha ileri araştırmalarla kapatılabilecek mevcut boşluklara doğru rehberlik etmiştir. Çok sayıda değerlendirme ve değerlendirme yapıldı, yani. kendini açma, çatışma çözme, tepki etkisi, benlik ve ilişkiler modelleri/teorileri, eş desteği, toplumsal etki ve yakınlık. Seçici madencilik ve mevcut verilerin analizlerinden sonra, bileşenlerinde parça parça alakalı olmasına rağmen, bir bütün olarak güvenlik açığı konusunda sınırlı bir anlayışın olduğu gözlemlenmiştir. Bununla birlikte, kırılganlığın doğasını ve birbiriyle ilişkili endişeleri anlama konusunda ayrıntılı araştırmaların eksikliği olduğu görülmektedir. Hassasiyet, çiftler arasında duygusal özgürlük ve yakınlık yaratmada bir fırsat yarattığından, makaleyi, bunun ilişkiler üzerindeki etkisini ve etkisini vurgulayan bir sonuç tartışması takip eder.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Kırılganlık, Özdeğer, Sevgi, Özgünlük, Duygusal Yakınlık, İletişim

The Key Role of Vulnerability in Developing Authentic Connections in Romantic Relationships

Öz

Among the recent relationship dynamics, Vulnerability is emerging as a strong foundational facet of fulfilling relationships, provided, the nuances of the idea are understood in an evolving fashion. This topic sheds light upon understanding the role vulnerability plays in building authentic relationships. The article explores the concept in depth touching every nook and crannies of elements that impact relationships. There has been some work done in this field thus far and understanding those existing literature has guided towards the existing gaps which can be bridged with further research, manifesting novel perspectives. Much evaluation and assessment were conducted on myriad facets, viz. self-disclosure, conflict resolution, response effect, models/theories of self and relationships, spousal support, societal influence, and intimacy. After selective mining and analyses of available data, it has been observed that there is a limited understanding of vulnerability as a whole concept, albeit being relevant in bits and pieces in its components. Nevertheless, it is observed that there is a dearth of detailed research in understanding the nature of vulnerability and interrelated concerns. As vulnerability creates an opportunity in creating emotional freedom and intimacy between couples, the article is followed by a concluding discussion highlighting its impact and effect on relationships.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Vulnerability, Self-worth, Love, Authenticity, Emotional Intimacy, Communication

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