Çıplak asgariye razı olmak için kişisel sevgi standartlarından boşanmak. İnsanlar ilgili çatışmalar ve algılanan sevginin solması ile nasıl başa çıkıyor?

Yıl 2023, Cilt: 5 Sayı: 2, 146 - 162, 27.06.2023

Akshıta Bakshi , Shadab Ahmad Ansari

Öz

Hint kültürü, flört kültürünü hayatın doğal bir olayı olarak görme fikrine ısındıkça, paralel olarak ilişkilerin açıklığında ve gençler, genç yetişkinler ve hatta diğer yaşlar arasındaki flört ilişkilerindeki artış sıklığında bir değişim gördük. gruplar. Yine de, çok sayıda insan, belirli bir noktadan sonra mutsuzluk veya doyumsuz ilişkiler bildirmektedir. İlişkilerin kurulması arttıkça, ilişkilerin kopması da artıyor. Görünüşte basit bir kelime olan “Sevgi”, sevgi verme/alma, değerliliği etkileme, bağlanma yaralarını açma ve ilişki dinamiklerine karar verme gücünü taşır. Bu nedenle, bu araştırmanın amacı romantik ilişkilerin temellerini hedef almaktı. Beklenen ve alınan sevgi arasındaki tutarsızlıkla uğraşan ve aynı anda sağlıksız dinamiklere yol açan ortaya çıkan zorluklarla başa çıkan insanların deneyimlerini inceliyoruz. Fenomenolojiyi kullanarak, duygulanım uyuşmazlığını yaşayan ve duygulanım azalmasını ele alan 12 kişiyle derinlemesine, bire bir görüşme yoluyla verileri elde ettik. Sonuçlar, ideal sevginin unsurlarını, alınan ve beklenen sevgi arasındaki farkı, katılımcıların tamamlanmamış ilişkilere katkılarını ve ortak başa çıkma davranışlarını vurgulamaktadır. Makale, çıkarımlar, sınırlamalar ve gelecekteki araştırma yönergeleri ile sona ermektedir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Sevgi, Kendine ihanet etmek, solan aşk, bağlanma yaraları, karşılanmayan beklentiler, başa çıkma

Divorcing personal standards of affection to settle for the bare minimum. How do people cope with the related conflicts, and perceived fading of affection?

Öz

As the Indian culture is warming up to the idea of dating as a natural occurrence in life, we have parallelly seen a shift in the openness of relationships, and the frequency of increase in dating relationships among youth, young adults, and even other age groups. Yet, a large number of people report unhappiness, or unfulfilled relationships after a certain point in time. As the making of relationships is increasing, so is the breaking of relationships. One seemingly simple word “Affection” carries the power to give/ receive love, influence worthiness, open attachment wounds, and decide the relationship dynamics. Therefore, the purpose of this research was to target the underpinnings of romantic relationships. We study the experience of people dealing with the discrepancy in the expected, and received affection, and simultaneously coping with the challenges that lead to unhealthy dynamics. We used phenomenology and obtained the data through in-depth, one on one interviews of 12 individuals in dating relationships, who have experienced the affection discrepancy, and dealt with the fading of affection. Results highlight the elements of ideal affection, the discrepancy between received, vs expected affection, participants' contribution toward unfulfilled relationships, and common coping behaviors. The article concludes with the implications, limitations, and future research directions.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Affection, self-betrayal, fading love, attachment wounds, unmet expectations, coping

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