Year 2018, Volume 47, Issue 2, Pages 667 - 693 2018-10-01

ÇİFTLER EVLİLİKLERİNİ NASIL GÖRÜYORLAR? : NİTEL BİR ÇALIŞMA
HOW COUPLES PERCEIVE THEIR MARRIAGE?: A QUALITATIVE STUDY

Seval Kızıldağ [1] , İrem Şahin [2]

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Evlilik bireyin ve toplumun ruh sağlığı ve toplum düzeni için katkı sağlamaktadır. Bu sebeple bu çalışmanın amacı evli çiftlerin evliliklerini nasıl algıladıklarını ortaya koymaktır. Bu çalışmanın katılımcılarını 2015 yılında Mersin ilinde ikamet etmekte olup kartopu örnekleme yöntemi ile ulaşılmış olan 57 evli çift (114 birey; 57 kadın ve 57 erkek) oluşturmaktadır. Çalışmaların verileri araştırmacılar tarafından oluşturulan “Evlilik Algısı Formu” ile toplanmıştır. Katılımcılara, ideal evlilik beklentileri, evliliklerinde sorun yaşadıkları alanlar, evliliklerinde stres yaratan durumlarla baş etmede kullandıkları yöntemler ve kendi evliliklerine ait beklentiler sorulmuştur.  Katılımcılardan toplanan form halindeki dokümanların bilgisayar ortamına aktarılmasının ardından elde edilen veri, nitel veri analizi yöntemlerinden içerik analizi yoluyla analiz edilmiştir. Elde edilen sonuçlara göre, katılımcıların ideal evlilik beklentileri hem kadın hem de erkek katılımcılar için “sevgi, saygı ve anlayış” temelinde oluşan bir evlilik beklentisi üzerinde birleşmektedir. Bu katılımcılardan kadınlar evliliklerinde en sık “çocuk yetiştirme ve aile büyükleri” konularını; erkekler ise çocuk yetiştirme ve fikir ayrılıkları konusunu dile getirmişlerdir. Bununla birlikte, evliliklerinde sorun yaşamadıklarını hem kadın hem de erkek katılımcılar sıklıkla ifade etmişlerdir. Aynı zamanda evli çiftler evliliklerinde bu sorunlarla baş etmede kadınlar konuşarak, sakin davranarak ve sessiz kalarak; erkekler konuşarak, sakin davranarak ve sakin ortamlara giderek yolunu seçmektedirler. Son olarak, bu çiftler kendi evlilikleri için kadınlar sevgiye dayanan, mutlu ve saygıya dayanan bir evlilik beklerken; erkek katılımcılar da benzer olarak mutlu, huzurlu ve sevgiye dayanan bir evlilik beklemektedirler. Bu sonuçlar ilgili alan yazındaki çalışmalar ışığında tartışılmış ve önerilerde bulunulmuştur. 

 Marriage contributes to the mental health of the individuals and community and to the order of society. For this reason, the aim of this study is to determine how married couples perceive their marriage. The participants of this study are 57 married couples (114 individuals, 57 females and 57 males) live in Mersin province in 2015 and reached by snowball sampling method. The data of the studies were collected by the researchers' "Marriage Perception Form".  Participants were asked about the ideal marriage expectation, the areas where they had problems in their marriage, the methods they used to cope with stressful situations in their marriage, and the expectations of their own marriages. The data obtained after the transfer of the documents in the form of the forms collected from the participants to the computer environment were analyzed by means of content analysis through qualitative data analysis methods. According to the results obtained, the participants' ideal marriage expectancies are combined on a marriage expectation based on "love, respect and understanding" for both male and female participants. Among these participants, women most frequently refer to "child rearing and family elders" and men talked about “raising children and disagreements”.
However, both female and male participants frequently stated that they had no problem in their marriage. At the same time, married couples cope with these problems during their marriage by talking, being calm and silent; men participants are choosing the methods by talking, being quiet and going to quiet surroundings. Finally, while these couples hope a happy and respectful marriage based on their female love for their marriage; male participants also expect a marriage based on happiness, peace and love. These results were discussed and suggested in the light of studies in the related field.

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Primary Language en
Subjects Education, Scientific Disciplines
Journal Section Article
Authors

Orcid: 0000-0002-3357-7186
Author: Seval Kızıldağ
Institution: ADIYAMAN ÜNİVERSİTESİ
Country: Turkey


Orcid: 0000-0001-7146-0205
Author: İrem Şahin
Institution: ÇUKUROVA ÜNİVERSİTESİ
Country: Turkey


Bibtex @conference paper { cuefd349736, journal = {Cukurova University Faculty of Education Journal}, issn = {1302-9967}, eissn = {2149-116X}, address = {Cukurova University}, year = {2018}, volume = {47}, pages = {667 - 693}, doi = {10.14812/cuefd.349736}, title = {HOW COUPLES PERCEIVE THEIR MARRIAGE?: A QUALITATIVE STUDY}, key = {cite}, author = {Kızıldağ, Seval and Şahin, İrem} }
APA Kızıldağ, S , Şahin, İ . (2018). HOW COUPLES PERCEIVE THEIR MARRIAGE?: A QUALITATIVE STUDY. Cukurova University Faculty of Education Journal, 47 (2), 667-693. Retrieved from http://dergipark.org.tr/cuefd/issue/40033/349736
MLA Kızıldağ, S , Şahin, İ . "HOW COUPLES PERCEIVE THEIR MARRIAGE?: A QUALITATIVE STUDY". Cukurova University Faculty of Education Journal 47 (2018): 667-693 <http://dergipark.org.tr/cuefd/issue/40033/349736>
Chicago Kızıldağ, S , Şahin, İ . "HOW COUPLES PERCEIVE THEIR MARRIAGE?: A QUALITATIVE STUDY". Cukurova University Faculty of Education Journal 47 (2018): 667-693
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