Erken Ebeveyn Kaybı Olan ve Olmayan Genç Yetişkinlerde Bağlanma Örüntüleri, Yas Tepkileri ve İşlevsel Olmayan Romantik İlişki İnançları

Öz

Erken ebeveyn kaybı yaşantısıyla ilintili olarak genç yetişkinlerin bağlanma örüntüleri, yas tepkileri ve işlevsel olmayan romantik ilişki inançları incelenmiştir. Katılımcılar İstanbul’daki bir devlet üniversitesine kayıtlı 423 öğrenciyi kapsamıştır. Veri toplamada çevrimiçi bir tarama paketi kullanılmıştır. Çözümlemeler bağlanma örüntülerinin kayıp durumuna göre değişmediğini göstermiştir. Erken ebeveyn kaybı grubunda, kayıtsız bağlanma örüntüsü ile işlevsel olmayan romantik ilişki inançları; kayıpsız grupta ise, saplantılı bağlanma örüntüsü ile işlevsel olmayan romantik ilişki inançları olumlu ilişkide bulunmuştur. Kayıtsız bağlanma örüntüsü olan ve fazla yas tepkisi gösteren katılımcıların işlevsel olmayan romantik ilişki inançlarının daha fazla olduğu bulunmuştur. Davranışsal ve bedensel tiplerin en yaygın; duygusal ve bilişsel tiplerin ise en nadir yas tepkileri olduğu görülmüştür.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Erken ebeveyn kaybı
• genç yetişkinler
• bağlanma örüntüleri
• yas tepkileri
• işlevsel olmayan romantik ilişki inançları

Attachment Patterns, Mourning Reactions, and Dysfunctional Romantic Relationship Beliefs among Young Adults with and without Early Parental Loss

Öz

The attachment patterns, mourning reactions and dysfunctional romantic relationship beliefs of young adults were examined in relation to early parental loss experience. Participants included 423 students at a public university in İstanbul. An online survey package was used in data collection. Analyses indicated no attachment pattern difference by loss status. For the early parental loss group, the dismissing attachment pattern and dysfunctional romantic relationship beliefs; and for the no loss group, preoccupied attachment pattern and dysfunctional romantic relationship beliefs had positive relations. Participants with dismissing attachment patterns and high levels of mourning had more dysfunctional romantic relationship beliefs. Behavioral and physical types were the most; emotional and cognitive types were the least common mourning reactions.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Early parental loss
• young adults
• attachment patterns
• mourning reactions
• dysfunctional romantic relationship beliefs

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