Çocuk Odaklılık ve Evlilik Doyumu Arasındaki İlişkide Deneyimsel Kaçınmanın Aracı Rolü

Öz

Eşlerin birbirlerine ve ilişkilerine yönelik tutumları ile eşler arasındaki duygusal iklimin doğası evlilik doyumu için önemlidir. Eşler arasında sağlıklı bir duygusal iklimin sağlanamadığı durumlarda, şiddetli duygusal düzensizlikler veya bazı semptomlar çekirdek ailenin duygusal sistemi içinde ortaya çıkabilir. Çekirdek ailede duygusal süreçler olarak da bilinen bu belirtilerden biri, çocuklarla ilgili konuların sıklıkla çiftler arasında çatışmalara neden olduğu çocuk odaklılıktır. Bununla birlikte, çocuk odaklılık nedeniyle çiftlerin deneyimledikleri çatışmalar, bir baş etme biçimi olarak deneyimsel kaçınma davranışlarının ilişki bağlamında sıklığını da artırabilir. Bu çalışmanın amacı, çocuk odaklılık ile evlilik doyumu arasındaki ilişkide deneyimsel kaçınmanın aracı rolünün incelenmesidir. Çalışmaya 159 evli çift katılmıştır. Katılımcılar Aile Dizimi Görüşme Formuna ait Çocuk Odaklılık Alt Ölçeği, Kabul ve Eylem Anketi-II, İlişki Değerlendirme Ölçeği ve Demografik Bilgi Formu’ndan oluşan anketi yanıtlamışlardır. İkili (Dyadic) Aracılık Modeli’nin bulguları, çocuk odaklılık ile deneyimsel kaçınmanın evlilik doyumundaki varyansın %55'ini açıkladığını göstermiştir. Çocuk odaklılık değişkeni ile evlilik doyumu arasındaki ilişkiye deneyimsel kaçınma tam aracılık etmiştir. Bulgularımız, eşlerin kaçınma davranışlarının, çocuk odaklılık gibi uyumsuz başa çıkma yöntemlerini nasıl etkilediğini göstermektedir. Bulgularımız, çocuk odaklılık gibi uyumsuz başa çıkma yöntemlerinin, eşlerin kaçınma davranışlarını tetikleyerek evlilik doyumlarını olumsuz etkileyebileceğini göstermektedir. Evlilik doyumunu artırmak için eşlerin psikolojik esneklik ve benlik ayrımlaşması (çocuğa daha az odaklanma) düzeylerinin artırılması hedeflenmelidir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Evlilik doyumu
• Benlik ayrımlaşması
• Çocuk odaklılık
• Deneyimsel kaçınma

The Mediating Role of Experiential Avoidance in the Relationship Between the Focus on Child and Marital Satisfaction

Öz

Individuals' attitudes towards their spouses and relationship, including the emotional climate of the marriage are essential for a satisfying marriage. In an unhealthy emotional climate, on the other hand, severe symptoms may emerge. One of these symptoms is the focus-on-child, where child-related issues often cause marital conflicts. The marital conflicts due to focus-on-child may also increase experiential avoidance as a coping style in the relationship. The purpose is to examine the mediating role of experiential avoidance in the relationship between the focus on child and marital satisfaction. One hundred fifty-nine married dyads participated in the study. They completed the Family Genogram Interview Form which consists of Focus on Child Subscale, Acceptance and Action Questionnaire-II, Relationship Assessment Scale, and Demographic Information Form. Findings of the Common Fate Mediation Model indicated that focus on child and experiential avoidance explained 55% of the variance in marital satisfaction. Experiential avoidance has fully mediated the relationship between focus on the child and marital satisfaction. Findings indicate maladaptive coping methods (i.e., focus-on-child) may trigger the avoidance behaviors of spouses and negatively affect their marital satisfaction. To improve marital satisfaction, we propose that spouses' psychological flexibility and self-differentiation (less focus on the child) levels should be enhanced.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Marital satisfaction
• Differentiation of self
• Focus on child
• Experiential avoidance

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