Violence in Couple Relationships: Relational Factors, Family of Origin Experiences and Coping Strategies

Abstract

Violence in couple relationships, both in Turkey and in the world, is amongst the major problems. There is a need for different studies revealing what affects the relationships between couples and how they are affected, how the relationships in the family origin of individuals are reflected on the relationships between couples and how to deal with this problem between couples. In this context, in this study, the causes of violence in couple relationships, strategies of coping with violence in the couple's relationship, and the effects of the origin family experiences of the couple on the couple relationship, unlike other studies in the literature, were examined. This study is a descriptive study and phenomenology, a qualitative research type, was used as the research design. The research data were obtained through semi-structured interviews, which are qualitative research methods. Content analysis method was used to analyze the data. As a result of the research, it has been revealed that the violence experienced by married individuals in couple relationships reflects not only individual characteristics of individuals but also the relational experiences of couples and intergenerational family interaction.

Keywords

• Violence
• couple relationship
• family of origin

Çift İlişkilerinde Şiddet: İlişkisel Faktörler, Köken Aile Deneyimleri ve Baş Etme Stratejileri

Öz

Çift ilişkilerinde yaşanan şiddet, hem Türkiye’de hem de dünyadaki önemli problemlerden biridir. Çiftler arasındaki ilişkilerin nelerden ve nasıl etkilendiğini, bireylerin içinden geldiği aile kökenindeki ilişkilerin çift ilişkilerine nasıl yansıdığını ve çiftler arasında yaşanan bu sorun ile nasıl baş edildiğini ortaya çıkaran araştırmalara ihtiyaç bulunmaktadır. Bu çerçevede, bu araştırmada çift ilişkilerinde yaşanan şiddetin nedenleri, katılımcıların çift ilişkisinde şiddetle baş etme stratejileri ve alan yazındaki diğer çalışmalardan farklı olarak çiftlerin köken aile deneyimlerinin çift ilişkisine yansımaları incelenmiştir. Bu çalışma betimleyici türde bir araştırmadır ve araştırma deseni olarak nitel araştırma türlerinden olgu bilim kullanılmıştır. Araştırma verileri nitel araştırma yöntemlerinden olan yarı yapılandırılmış görüşmelerle elde edilmiştir. Verilerin analizinde içerik analizi yöntemi kullanılmıştır. Araştırma sonucunda, evli bireylerin çift ilişkilerinde yaşadıkları şiddet konusunda sadece kişilerin bireysel özellikleri değil, çiftlerin ilişkisel deneyimleri ve nesiller arası aile etkileşimlerinin de yansımaları olduğu açığa çıkmıştır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Şiddet
• çift ilişkisi
• köken aile

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