BAĞLANMA STİLLERİNE VE CİNSİYETE GÖRE ÇATIŞMA YÖNETİMİ VE ALDATMA EĞİLİMİNİN İNCELENMESİ

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Abstract The purpose of the present study is to investigate married individuals' infidelity tendency and conflict management style in accordance with loyalty and gender. 200 participants of 145 women and 55 men were presented with Personal Information Sheet, Experiences in Close Relationships Scale, Infidelity Tendency Questionnaire and Conflict Management Questionnaire. According to statistical analysis and evaluations, it has been found out that; compared to secure participants, insecure participants' and compared to women, men's infidelity tendency was statistically higher. Comparison with secure participants, insecure participants were found to have higher tendency for negative active and negative passive conflict management styles and women showed out to have higher tendency for positive active conflict management style. Additionally, Infidelity tendency and negative - active conflict management were observed to be positively related. Key words: Attachment style, infidelity, conflict management, gender.

Anahtar Kelimeler

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INVESTIGATING INFIDELITY TENDENCY AND CONFLICT MANAGEMENT BASED ON ATTACHMENT STYLES AND GENDER

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Öz Bu araştırmanın amacı, bağlanma stillerinin çatışma çözüm biçimleri ve aldatma eğilimi üzerindeki etkisinde cinsiyetin rolü olup olmadığını; ayrıca aldatma eğilimi ve çatışma yönetim biçimleri arasındaki ilişkileri incelemektir. Bu amaçla 145 kadın, 55 erkek olmak üzere 200 evli katılımcıya Yakın İlişkilerde Yaşantılar Envanteri, Aldatma Eğilimi Ölçeği ve Çatışma Yönetim Biçimleri Ölçeği verilmiştir. Yapılan analizler sonucunda, güvensiz bağlanma stiline sahip bireylerin, güvenli bağlanma stiline sahip olanlara ve erkeklerin kadınlara göre aldatma eğilimlerinin daha yüksek olduğu bulunmuştur. Güvensiz bağlama stiline sahip olanların güvenlilere göre daha fazla olumsuz aktif ve olumsuz pasif çatışma yönetimine ve kadınların erkeklere göre daha fazla olumlu aktif çatışma yönetim biçimine yöneldikleri bulunmuştur. Son olarak aldatma eğilimi ile olumsuz aktif çatışma yönetim biçimi arasında da anlamlı ve olumlu yönde ilişkiye rastlanmıştır. Elde edilen bulgular literatür ışığında tartışılmıştır. Anahtar kelimeler: Bağlanma stilleri, aldatma, çatışma yönetimi, cinsiyet

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Bağlanma stilleri, aldatma, çatışma yönetimi, cinsiyet

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