Narsisistik Kişilik Özellikleri ve Aşk Stilleri Arasında Aşk Mitlerinin Aracı Rolü

Yıl 2024, Cilt: 12 Sayı: 1, 73 - 90, 30.04.2024

Haydeh Faraji

https://doi.org/10.18795/gumusmaviatlas.1388081

Öz

Narsistik kişilik özellikleri ilişki çatışmalarıyla ilişkilendirilir ve ilişkileri algılama biçimi davranış ve tutumları etkileyebilir. Bu nedenle çalışmanın amacı, narsisistik kişilik özellikleri ile aşk stilleri arasındaki ilişkide aşk mitlerinin aracı rolünü incelemektir. Araştırmanın örneklemi basit tesadüfi örnekleme yöntemiyle belirlenmiştir. Örneklemi, romantik bir ilişki içinde olduğunu belirten ve araştırmaya gönüllü olarak katılan, 18-45 yaş aralığında (Ortalama=23,81, Standart Sapma=5,95) 231 kadın 187 erkek toplam 418 birey oluşturmaktadır. Ölçüm araçları sosyo-demografik veri formu, Narsistik Kişilik Envanteri, Aşk Tutumları Ölçeği (Kısa Form) ve Aşk Mitleri Ölçeği'dir. Anketlere verilen cevaplar SPSS 25 programı ile analiz edilmiştir. Pearson Korelasyon Testi ve PROCESS 3.5 kullanıldı. Sonuçlar, sevginin kötüye kullanılması ve aşkın idealleştirilmesine ilişkin aşk mitlerinin, narsisistik kişilik özellikleri ile mani ve ludus aşk tarzı arasında aracılık ettiğini göstermiştir. Sonuçlar, aşkın kötüye kullanılması ve aşk mitlerinin idealleştirilmesinin, narsisistik kişilik özelliklerine sahip kişilerde romantik ilişkilerde oyunbaz gibi davranma, dikkatsiz olma ve istismarcı olma eğilimi yarattığını göstermektedir. Araştırmanın sonuçları, narsist kişilerin ilişki çatışmalarına çözüm bulmada, ilişki doyumunu artırmada ve böylece kıskançlık, sadakatsizlik, dikkatsiz veya manipülatif, saldırgan ve istismarcı tutumların önlenmesinde yardımcı olabilir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

aşk tutumları, aşk stilleri, narsisistik kişilik bozukluğu, narsisistik kişilik özellikleri, aşk mitleri

Etik Beyan

The study was approved by Istanbul Aydın University Social Sciences Ethics Committee decision dated 09.07.2021, numbered 2021/08.

Destekleyen Kurum

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Teşekkür

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The Mediator Role of Love Myhts between Narcissistic Personality Traits and Love Styles

Öz

Narcissistic personality traits are associated with relationship conflicts, and the way of perceiving relationships can affect behaviors and attitudes. Therefore, the aim of the study was to investigate the love myths mediator role between narcissistic personality traits and love styles. The research's sample was determined by a simple random sampling method. The sample includes 231 women 187 men in total 418 individuals between the ages of 18-45 (Mean=23.81, Standart Deviation=5.95) who stated that they had been in a romantic relationship and who participated in the study voluntarily. Measurement tools were socio-demographic data form, Narcissistic Personality Inventory, Love Attitudes Scale (Short-Form), and Love Myths Scale. The answers to the surveys were analyzed with the SPSS 25 program. Pearson Correlation Test and PROCESS 3.5 were used. Results indicated that abuse of love and idealization of love myhts mediate between narcissistic personality traits and mania and ludus love style. The results show that love myhts abuse of love and idealization creates a tendency in people with narcissistic personality traits to act like gamer, be careless, and be abusive in romantic relationships. The results of the study might be helpful in finding a solution to narcissistic people's relationship conflicts, raising relationship satisfaction, and by so preventing jealousy, infidelity, and careless or manipulative, aggressive, and abusive attitudes.

Anahtar Kelimeler

love attitudes, love styles, narcissistic personality disorder

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