Examination of the relationship between romantic sympathetic magic belief and attachment styles

Öz

In human relationships, the effect of objects on emotional bonds has been a subject of curiosity in research. According to the belief called romantic sympathetic magic, there is a mysterious connection between objects and people. Romantic sympathetic magic is the tendency of individuals to use symbolic objects or rituals to strengthen their emotional bonds with their partners. For example, carrying a photo of their partner with them or smelling an object belonging to them. It is suggested that these behaviors contribute to the strengthening of the individual's attachment to the other, making the relationship stronger and more meaningful. On the other hand, attachment theory explains how individuals' childhood experiences are reflected in their relationships in adulthood. The purpose of this research is to examine the relationship between individuals with different attachment styles and romantic sympathetic magic belief in terms of various variables. A total of 541 people, 321 women and 220 men, participated in the research. The data in the research were collected through the personal information form created by the researchers, the Romantic Sympathetic Magic Scale, and the Attachment Styles Scale Short Form. The research data were analyzed in the SPSS 26.0 package program. In the analysis of the data, Pearson Correlation Analysis, Independent Sample T-Test, and One-Way Analysis of Variance (ANOVA) were used. When the findings were examined, a negative significant relationship was found between the Romantic Sympathetic Magic Scale and the secure attachment sub-dimension of the Attachment Styles Scale and a positive significant relationship was found with the anxious and avoidant attachment sub-dimensions. Finally, significant differences were found according to the gender variable. These findings may indicate that insecurely attached individuals try to complete the deficiencies in their relationships with symbolic objects or rituals. In addition, the findings of the study may help to better understand the psychological meaning of objects in attachment styles.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Romantic Sympathetic Magic
• Avoidant Attachment
• Secure Attachment
• anxious-ambivalent attachment
• Attachment styles

Romantik sempatik büyü inancı ve bağlanma stilleri arasındaki ilişkinin incelenmesi

Öz

İnsan ilişkilerinde nesnelerin duygusal bağlar üzerindeki etkisi, araştırmalarda merak konusu olmuştur. Romantik sempatik büyü olarak adlandırılan inanca göre, nesneler ve insanlar arasında gizemli bir bağ bulunmaktadır. Romantik sempatik büyü, bireylerin partnerleriyle duygusal bağlarını güçlendirmek için sembolik nesneler veya ritüeller kullanma eğilimidir. Örneğin, partnerinin fotoğrafını yanında taşımak veya ona ait bir nesneyi koklamak. Bu davranışların, bireyin diğerine olan bağını güçlendirdiği, ilişkiyi daha sağlam ve anlamlı hale getirdiği öne sürülmektedir. Öte yandan, bağlanma teorisi, bireylerin çocukluk deneyimlerinin yetişkinlikteki ilişkilerine nasıl yansıdığını açıklar. Bu araştırmanın amacı, farklı bağlanma stillerine sahip bireylerin romantik sempatik büyü inancı ile ilişkisini çeşitli değişkenler açısından incelemektir. Araştırmaya toplam 541 kişi, 321 kadın ve 220 erkek katılmıştır. Araştırmadaki veriler, araştırmacılar tarafından oluşturulan kişisel bilgi formu, Romantik Sempatik Büyü Ölçeği ve Bağlanma Stilleri Ölçeği Kısa Formu aracılığıyla toplanmıştır. Araştırma verileri SPSS 26.0 paket programında analiz edilmiştir. Verilerin analizinde Pearson Korelasyon Analizi, Bağımsız Örnek T-Testi ve Tek Yönlü Varyans Analizi (ANOVA) kullanılmıştır. Bulgular incelendiğinde, Romantik Sempatik Büyü Ölçeği ile Bağlanma Stilleri Ölçeği’nin güvenli bağlanma alt boyutu arasında negatif anlamlı bir ilişki, kaygılı ve kaçınmacı bağlanma alt boyutlarıyla ise pozitif anlamlı bir ilişki bulunmuştur. Son olarak, cinsiyet değişkenine göre anlamlı farklılıklar tespit edilmiştir. Bu bulgular, güvensiz bağlanan bireylerin ilişkilerindeki eksiklikleri sembolik nesneler veya ritüellerle tamamlamaya çalıştığını gösterebilir. Ayrıca, çalışmanın bulguları, bağlanma stillerinde nesnelerin psikolojik anlamını daha iyi anlamaya yardımcı olabilir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Romantik Sempatik Büyü
• Kaçıngan Bağlanma
• Güvenli Bağlanma
• Kaygılı-karasız bağlanma
• Bağlanma stilleri

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