AİLE ARABULUCULUĞU UYGULAMA BECERİLERİ

Öz

Aile arabuluculuğunun uygun uygulama biçiminin nasıl olacağı konusunda bir fikir birliği bulunmasa da bir aile arabulucunun nasıl “iyi” olacağı ve aynı zamanda hangi becerileri taşıması gerektiği konusunda yapılan araştırmalar bazı noktalara dikkat çekmiştir. Bu çalışmamızda etkili bir aile arabulucusunun konusunda bilgili, çatışma çözme becerilerinin gelişmiş, boşanmanın tüm aşamaları konusunda temel bir bilgi ve uyuşmazlığı çözmek için gerekli olabilecek ek uzmanlıklara sahip, aktif bir dinleyici, sabırlı, taraflarla doğru iletişim kurabilen, güven duygusu oluşturabilen, değerlere saygılı, kontrolü elinde tutabilen, tarafların duygusal geçişlerini yönetebilen ve altta yatan ihtiyaçlarını keşfederek onları çözüme doğru taşıyabilen empatiyle dinleyebilen ve davranabilen bir kişi olmasının önemi vurgulanmış ve içerikler açıklanmıştır. Aile arabuluculuğu, uygulayıcının bir dizi beceriyi ustalıkla uygulayabilmesini gerekli kılar. Aile Arabulucuları süreç içinde karmaşık bir çaba içindedir. Bu becerilerde ustalaşmak ve etkin kullanımın sağlanması tam ve eksiksiz entegrasyon gerektirir. Zaman ve deneyim en iyi rehberdir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Arabuluculuk
• Arabuluculuk Becerileri
• Aile Arabuluculuğu
• Alternatif Uyuşmazlık Çözümü
• Terapötik Aile Arabuluculuğu
• Aile Arabuluculuğu Uygulama Becerileri
• Aktif Dinleme

FAMILY MEDIATION PRACTICE SKILLS

Öz

Although there is no consensus on the appropriate application of family mediation, research on how a family mediator will be "good" and also what skills they should have has drawn attention to some points. In this study, an effective family mediator is knowledgeable, has advanced conflict resolution skills, has basic knowledge of all stages of divorce and additional expertise that may be required to resolve conflict, is an active listener, patient, can communicate correctly with the parties, can create a sense of trust, respects values, has control. The importance of being a person who can hold hands, manage the emotional transitions of the parties, discover the underlying needs and move them towards a solution, listen and act with empathy was emphasized and the contents were explained. Family mediation requires the practitioner to be able to master a range of skills. Family Mediators are involved in a complex effort in the process. Mastering these skills and ensuring their effective use requires full and complete integration. Time and experience is the best guide.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Mediation
• Mediation Skills
• Family Mediation
• Alternative Conflict Resolution
• Therapeutic Family Mediation
• Family Mediation Practice Skills
• Active Listening

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