The Fault Line Upon Which Families Stand: A Qualitative Research on Family Peace

Öz

The present study aims to uncover the perceptions of married individuals on the phenomenon of family peace/tranquility through their family life experiences and to evaluate this phenomenon over the basic concepts of family life. The research utilizes the interpretative phenomenological design, a qualitative research pattern. The study group, determined using purposeful sampling methods, consists of 18 married individuals whose time married range from 2 to 12 years. In the study, data have been gathered through semi-structured interview forms and transferred to the data analysis program NVivo 11; the method of interpretative phenomenological analysis has been used for analyzing the data. According to the findings from the study, family peace has been interpreted through the relation of basic needs inherent in the idea of being a family and the sensitive issues that shake the foundation of family life. Reflections on a family being peaceful/non-peaceful contain not only significant indicators of a strong and solid framework, but also consist of the deep attrition that may cause the family to divorce. In addition, the unsteadiness of family peace and its relationship with the concepts of happiness, harmony, satisfaction, and love have been explored, on which family-based studies have also focused. Based on the results from the study, various recommendations have been presented to researchers and practitioners.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Tranquility,peace,family,marriage,family peace,happiness,harmony,contentment,love,phenomenolog

Ailelerin Üzerinde Durduğu Fay Hattı: Aile Huzuru, Nitel Bir Araştırma

Öz

Bu çalışmada, evli bireylerin aile yaşam deneyimleri üzerinden aile huzuru olgusuna ilişkin algılarının ortaya çıkarılması ve bu olgunun aile yaşamının temel kavramları üzerinden değerlendirilmesi amaçlanmıştır. Araştırmada nitel araştırma desenlerinden biri olan yorumlayıcı fenomenolojiden yararlanılmıştır. Çalışma grubu, amaçlı örnekleme yöntemlerine bağlı olarak belirlenmiş evlilik süreleri dört ila on iki yıl arasında değişen on sekiz evli bireyden oluşmaktadır. Araştırmada veriler yarı yapılandırılmış görüşme formu aracılığıyla toplanmış, veri analiz programı NVivo 11’e transfer edilmiş ve verilerin çözümlenmesinde yorumlayıcı fenomonoloji analizi yönteminden yararlanılmıştır. Analizler neticesinde ortaya çıkan bulgulara göre aile huzurunun, aile olmanın doğasında olan temel gereksinimler ve aile yaşamının temelini sarsacak hassasiyetteki konular ile bağlantılı olarak anlamlandırıldığı anlaşılmıştır. Aile huzurunun/huzursuzluğunun yansımaları, güçlü ve sağlam bir zemini işaret eden göstergelerden oluştuğu gibi aileyi dağılmaya götürebilecek kadar önemli ve derin yıpranmaları da barındırmaktadır. Bununla birlikte aile huzurunun değişkenliği ve aile araştırmalarının odaklandığı mutluluk, uyum, memnuniyet ve sevgi kavramlarıyla ilişkisi ortaya çıkarılmış, ortaya çıkan sonuçlara bağlı olarak araştırmacılara ve uygulayıcılara çeşitli öneriler sunulmuştur. 

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Huzur,aile,evlilik,aile huzuru,mutluluk,çift uyumu,memnuniyet,sevgi,fenomonoloji

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