A REVIEW ON INTERPERSONAL FORGIVENESS

Abstract

Allthough almost everyone has some covert notions about it, attraction of forgiveness as an academic issue was limited with theology and philosophy for many years. In recent years social psychologists and clinical psychologists started to show interest both in self forgiveness and forgiving others. The purpose of this article is to review the definitions and models of forgiveness and giving information about the empirical research findings in Turkey. Keywords: Forgiveness, causes of forgiveness, interpersonal relations, studies on forgiveness

Keywords

• Forgiveness, causes of forgiveness, interpersonal relations, studies on forgiveness

KİŞİLER ARASI İLİŞKİLERDE BAĞIŞLAMA ÜZERİNE BİR GÖZDEN GEÇİRME

Öz

Bağışlama çoğu insanın hakkında hakkında birtakım güçlü örtük görüşlere sahip olduğu bir konu olsa da, akademik bir konu olarak çekiciliği uzun yıllar teoloji ve felsefe alanıyla sınırlı kalmıştır. Ancak gerek kendini bağışlama gerekse diğerini bağışlama konusu son yıllarda sosyal psikologlar ve klinik psikologlar tarafından ilgi görmeye başlamıştır. Bu yazının amacı kişiler arası ilişkiler açısından bağışlamanın farklı tanımları, bağışlamaya ilişkin geliştirilmiş modeller, bağışlamanın nedenleri ve ülkemizde gerçekleştirilmiş olan görgül çalışmalar hakkında bilgi vermektir. Anahtar kelimeler: Bağışlama, bağışlamanın nedenleri, kişiler arası ilişkiler, bağışlamayla ilgili çalışmalar

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Bağışlama, bağışlamanın nedenleri, kişiler arası ilişkiler, bağışlamayla ilgili çalışmalar

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