The Concept of Parental Praise in Parenting

Abstract

Praise is stated as a good performance resource that can increase the individual's sense of competence and motivate their new learning. When the literature is examined, the importance of communication with the child in parenting is emphasized, especially the power of the words used by the parents. Parental praise is expressed as parents' repetition of the desired behaviors in children and giving feedback that will make them feel warm and sensitive with their words and behaviors in order to indicate the satisfaction felt towards them. Studies emphasize that parental praise is an important method in child development and a method that parents use very often. It is reported that many parents prefer to use praise as a tool to build self-confidence in their child. In terms of positive discipline, it is assumed that praise creates a reward value as a result of operant conditioning and can affect behavioral acquisition in the child's development. The type of parental praise plays an important role in how children form their self-image. It is in these early relationships that children first begin to feel capable, competent, and loved. Although praise is expressed as a source of motivation when it cannot be used beneficially, it can become harmful to the child when used incorrectly or excessively. At this point, the content of the praise is important. In this study, the concept of parental praise is discussed, the content of praise, which is seen as a reference to motivation, is examined and its benefits for child development are tried to be explained.

Keywords

• parental praise
• child rearing
• parenting

Çocuk Yetiştirmede Ebeveyn Övgüsü Kavramı

Öz

Övgü, bireyin yeterlilik duygusunu artırabilen ve yeni öğrenmelerini motive edebilen iyi bir performans kaynağı olarak belirtilmektedir. Alan yazın incelendiğinde ebeveynlikte çocukla kurulan iletişimin önemi vurgulanmakta, özellikle de anne-babaların kullandıkları kelimelerin gücüne dikkat çekilmektedir. Ebeveyn övgüsü, anne-babaların çocuklarda istenen davranışların tekrarı ve ona karşı duyulan memnuniyeti belirtmek için söz ve davranışlarıyla sıcaklığını ve duyarlılığını hissettirecek geri bildirimler vermesi olarak ifade edilmektedir. Araştırmalar, ebeveyn övgüsünün çocuk gelişiminde önemli ve ebeveynlerin çok sık kullandığı bir yöntem olduğunu vurgulamaktadır. Birçok ebeveynin, övgüyü çocukta özgüven oluşturmak için bunu bir araç olarak kullanmayı tercih ettiği bildirilmektedir. Pozitif disiplin açısından övgünün edimsel koşullanma sonucu bir ödül değeri yaratıp çocuğun gelişiminde davranış kazanımını etkileyebildiği varsayılmaktadır. Ebeveyn övgüsünün türü çocukların öz-imgelerini nasıl oluşturdukları konusunda önemli bir rol oynamaktadır. Çocuklar kendilerini yetenekli, yetkin ve sevilen biri olarak hissetmeye ilk kez bu erken ilişkiler içinde başlarlar. Övgü, faydalı kullanılamadığında motivasyon kaynağı olarak ifade edilse de yanlış kullanıldığında ya da aşırıya kaçtığında çocuğa zarar verici bir boyuta geçebilmektedir. Bu noktada, övgünün içeriği önem taşımaktadır. Bu çalışmada, ebeveyn övgüsü kavramı ele alınmış, motivasyona atıf olarak görülen övgünün içeriği incelenmiş ve çocuk gelişime faydaları açıklanmaya çalışılmıştır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• ebeveyn övgüsü
• övgü
• çocuk yetiştirme

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