Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans

Nesrin Duman; Ravzanur Bulut

doi:10.61158/saukad.1898074

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Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans

Öz

Narsisistik ve eş bağımlı (codependent) ilişki döngüsü, günümüzde klinik gözlemlerde ve ilişkisel psikopatoloji literatüründe giderek daha görünür hâle gelmektedir. Narsisizm; yaygın bir büyüklük duygusu, hayranlık ihtiyacı ve empati eksikliği ile karakterize edilirken; eş bağımlılık, dışa odaklanma, kendini feda etme, başkalarını kontrol etmeye çalışma ve kişinin kendi duygularını bastırması ortak temalarıyla tanımlanmaktadır. Bu iki yapı, adeta birbirini çeken mıknatıslar gibi, zıt ama tamamlayıcı ilişki rollerinin etkisiyle bir araya gelmektedir. Bu çalışmanın amacı, narsisistik–eş bağımlı ilişki örüntüsünü kavramsal ve açıklayıcı bir yaklaşımla ele alarak ilgili kuramsal zemini, yapılanmaların psikolojik özelliklerini ve temel ilişkisel dinamikleri tanıtmaktır. Çalışma ayrıca, narsisistik ve eş bağımlılık (codependency) dans döngüsünden çıkışa yönelik eş bağımlı taraf için önerileri de içermektedir. Bu gözden geçirme çalışmasında narsisistik ve eş bağımlı örüntülerin ortak çocukluk deneyimlerinden beslenen aynı ilişkisel zeminde kök salan yapılanmalar olduğu görülmektedir. Bu çalışma, ilişkisel bağlamın belirleyici rolüne dikkat çekerek, klinik değerlendirme ve müdahalelerde ilişkisel süreçlerin merkezde ele alınmasına katkı sunmayı amaçlamaktadır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Narsisizm, Eş bağımlılık, Bağımlı ilişkiler, Narsisistik, Eşbağımlı

Destekleyen Kurum

Bu çalışma herhangi bir kurum veya kuruluş tarafından desteklenmemiştir.

Etik Beyan

Bu çalışma için etik kurul izni gerekmemektedir. Çalışma, araştırma ve yayın etiği kurallarına uygun olarak hazırlanmıştır.

The Narcissistic–Codependent Relationship Cycle: A Dysfunctional Dance

Öz

The narcissistic and codependent relationship cycle is becoming increasingly visible in clinical observations and the literature on relational psychopathology. Narcissism is characterized by a pervasive sense of grandiosity a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, whereas codependency is defined by common themes of external focus, self-sacrifice, attempts to control others, and suppression of one’s own emotions. These two structures come together like magnets, influenced by opposing but complementary relational roles. The aim of this study is to address the narcissistic-codependent relationship pattern with a conceptual and explanatory approach, introducing the relevant theoretical framework, the psychological characteristics of these structures, and their fundamental relational dynamics. The study also includes recommendations for the codependent partner on how to break free from the narcissistic and codependency dance. The review shows that narcissistic and codependent patterns are structures rooted in the same relational context, nourished by shared childhood experiences. This study aims to contribute to the centrality of relational processes in clinical assessments and interventions by highlighting the decisive role of relational context.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Narcissism, Codependency, Dependent relationships, Narcissistic, Codependent

Destekleyen Kurum

This research received no external funding.

Etik Beyan

Ethics committee approval was not required for this study. The study was conducted in accordance with research and publication ethics.

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Ayrıntılar

Birincil Dil

Türkçe

Konular

Sosyal ve Kişilik Psikolojisi (Diğer)

Bölüm

Derleme

Yazarlar

Nesrin Duman
0000-0002-2751-8315
Türkiye

Ravzanur Bulut ^*
0009-0008-9405-7249
Türkiye

Erken Görünüm Tarihi

30 Haziran 2026

Yayımlanma Tarihi

30 Haziran 2026

Gönderilme Tarihi

26 Şubat 2026

Kabul Tarihi

29 Haziran 2026

Yayımlandığı Sayı

Yıl 2026 Cilt: 5 Sayı: 1

DOI

https://doi.org/10.61158/saukad.1898074

IZ

https://izlik.org/JA26JW82NP

APA

Duman, N., & Bulut, R. (2026). Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans. Sakarya Üniversitesi Kadın Araştırmaları Dergisi, 5(1), 40-54. https://doi.org/10.61158/saukad.1898074

AMA

1.Duman N, Bulut R. Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans. SAÜKAD. 2026;5(1):40-54. doi:10.61158/saukad.1898074

Chicago

Duman, Nesrin, ve Ravzanur Bulut. 2026. “Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans”. Sakarya Üniversitesi Kadın Araştırmaları Dergisi 5 (1): 40-54. https://doi.org/10.61158/saukad.1898074.

EndNote

Duman N, Bulut R (01 Haziran 2026) Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans. Sakarya Üniversitesi Kadın Araştırmaları Dergisi 5 1 40–54.

IEEE

[1]N. Duman ve R. Bulut, “Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans”, SAÜKAD, c. 5, sy 1, ss. 40–54, Haz. 2026, doi: 10.61158/saukad.1898074.

ISNAD

Duman, Nesrin - Bulut, Ravzanur. “Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans”. Sakarya Üniversitesi Kadın Araştırmaları Dergisi 5/1 (01 Haziran 2026): 40-54. https://doi.org/10.61158/saukad.1898074.

JAMA

1.Duman N, Bulut R. Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans. SAÜKAD. 2026;5:40–54.

MLA

Duman, Nesrin, ve Ravzanur Bulut. “Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans”. Sakarya Üniversitesi Kadın Araştırmaları Dergisi, c. 5, sy 1, Haziran 2026, ss. 40-54, doi:10.61158/saukad.1898074.

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1.Nesrin Duman, Ravzanur Bulut. Narsisistik-Eş Bağımlı İlişki Döngüsü: İşlevsiz Bir Dans. SAÜKAD. 01 Haziran 2026;5(1):40-54. doi:10.61158/saukad.1898074

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