Lise dönemindeki ergenler “iyi arkadaş” ve “kötü arkadaşı” nasıl tanımlar?

Yıl 2021, Cilt: 12 Sayı: 1, 18 - 34, 28.06.2021

Nilgün Öztürk Abdullah Atli Süleyman Nihat Şad

Öz

This qualitative study aimed to examine the perceptions of high school adolescents about “good friends” and “bad friends”, and to classify their perceptions under inclusive themes. Data were collected from 126 high school students. As a result of the inductive thematic analyses of the interviews, three major binary themes emerged: “Reliable versus Unreliable”, “Foul-weather friend” versus “Fair-weather friend”, and “Empathetic versus Callous”. As a result, it was asserted that a good friend is characterized with reliability in not lying you and keeping you away from dangers, with a sound support when you are in need, and finally with a feeling of emotional intimacy. A bad friend is characterized with unreliability in lying to you and with a potential risk of endangering you, with no support when you are in need, and with a feeling of emotional distance from you. Practical suggestions were given to practitioners within the framework of the findings.

Anahtar Kelimeler

"good friend, bad friend, friendships”

Kaynakça

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