Examining The Rules in Nuclear and Origin Families Living in Turkey

Abstract

This study aimed to examine married couples’ descriptions of themselves, their spouses, mothers, and fathers and their views about the rules in their nuclear and families of origin. The study group consisted of 12 married individuals, including eight females and four males, who were aged between 23 and 49, were not married to another participant, lived in the central county of a province in the central Anatolia region. The study used the phenomenological research design, which is one of the qualitative research approaches. The data were collected through semi-structured interviews, one of the qualitative research techniques, and analyzed with the content analysis method. The results of the study indicated that altruism and submissiveness were the common and prominent descriptions of the female participants about themselves and the descriptions of all participants about their mothers, whereas cold and distant were common descriptions of the participants about their mothers and fathers. It was found that the rules about couple relationships, family relationships, parenting, and spirituality/values were similar in nuclear and families of origin but that although the rules of the relationships with the family of origin/relatives and budget management were expressed in nuclear families, they were not expressed in families of origin.

Keywords

• Family
• family rules
• nuclear family
• family of origin

Türkiye’de Yaşayan Çekirdek ve Köken Ailelerdeki Kuralların İncelenmesi

Öz

Bu araştırmanın amacı, evli bireylerin kendilerine ve eşlerine; annelerine ve babalarına ilişkin tanımlamaları ile çekirdek ailelerindeki ve köken ailelerindeki kurallara ilişkin görüşlerini incelemektir. Araştırmanın çalışma grubu Orta Anadolu’da bir il merkezinde yaşayan, birbirleriyle evli olmayan ve yaşları 23 ile 49 arasında değişen sekizi kadın dördü erkek olmak üzere toplam 12 evli bireyden oluşmaktadır. Bu araştırmada nitel araştırma yaklaşımlarından biri olan fenomenolojik araştırma deseni kullanılmıştır. Verileri toplamak için nitel araştırma tekniklerinden biri olan yarı yapılandırılmış görüşmeden ve verilerin analizinde ise içerik analizi yönteminden yararlanılmıştır. Araştırmanın sonucunda kadınların kendilerine ilişkin tanımlamaları ile tüm katılımcıların annelerine ilişkin tanımlamalarında fedakâr olma ve alttan almanın ortak olarak ön plana çıktığı; anne ve babalarına ilişkin tanımlamalarında ise soğuk ve mesafeli olmanın ortak özellik olduğu bulgusuna ulaşılmıştır. Çift ilişkisi, aile ilişkisi, çocuk yetiştirme ve değerlere ilişkin kuralların çekirdek ve köken ailelerde benzerlik gösterdiği; bununla birlikte köken aile ve akraba ilişkileri ve bütçe yönetimine ilişkin kuralların çekirdek ailelerinde ifade edilmesine rağmen köken ailelerde ifade edilmediği bulunmuştur.

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Aile
• aile kuralları
• çekirdek aile
• köken aile

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