Yasın Labirentinde: Annelerin Çocuk Kaybı Sonrası Yas Deneyimleri

Yıl 2025, Cilt: 42 Sayı: 2, 458 - 477, 23.12.2025

Büşra Kıyan , Sedat Işıklı

https://doi.org/10.32600/huefd.1610266

Öz

Çocuğunu kaybetmek bir ebeveyn için en yıkıcı kayıplardan biri olarak görülebilecek bir deneyimdir. Türkiye bağlamında alan yazın incelendiğinde, çocuğunu kaybetmiş ebeveynlerin deneyimlerine ilişkin sınırlı sayıda çalışma bulunduğu gözlemlenmektedir. Bununla birlikte, kayıp yaşayan ebeveynlerin yas sürecindeki deneyimlerini ve gereksinimlerini anlamak, geliştirilebilecek müdahalelere ışık tutması açısından oldukça önemlidir. Bu çalışma ile çocuk kaybı yaşamış annelerin yas deneyimlerini incelemek amaçlanmıştır. Yas sürecinin ve anne-çocuk ilişkisinin öznelliğini ortaya koyabilmek üzere katılımcıların deneyimlerini derinlemesine analiz edebilmek amacıyla nitel bir yaklaşım olan yorumlayıcı fenomenolojik analizden yararlanılmıştır. Bu kapsamda çocuğunu kaybetmiş altı katılımcı ile yarı yapılandırılmış, bire bir ve derinlemesine görüşmeler gerçekleştirilmiştir. Yapılan analizler sonucunda “kayıp sonrası yüzleşme ve kaçınma dinamikleri”, “devam eden annelik deneyimi” ve “destek arayışında sosyal çevrenin etkileri ve beklentiler” olmak üzere üç ana tema belirlenmiştir. Bulgular, çocuk kaybı yaşayan annelerin yüzleşme ve kaçınma ikilemleri, yas sürecinde devam eden annelik deneyimleri ve sosyal desteğin iyileştirici veya zorlaştırıcı etkileri üzerinden yas sürecindeki karmaşık duygusal ve ilişkisel dinamikleri ortaya koymaktadır. Çalışma bulgularının bu konudaki önleyici çalışmalar ve klinik uygulamalar açısından önemi tartışılmıştır.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Çocuk kaybı , yas , ebeveyn yası , yorumlayıcı fenomenolojik analiz

In the Labyrinth of Grief: Mothers’ Grief Experiences After Child Loss

Öz

Losing a child is an experience that can be considered one of the most devastating losses for a parent. In the context of Turkey, there are very few studies on the experiences of parents who have lost their children, but understanding the experiences and needs of bereaved parents in this process, is crucial for informing the development of effective interventions. This study aimed to understand the grief experiences of mothers who have lost a child. Interpretive Phenomenological Analysis, a qualitative approach, was used to analyze the participants' experiences in depth in order to reveal the subjectivity of the mourning process and the mother-child relationship. In this context, semi-structured, one-on-one and in-depth interviews were conducted with six participants. Three main themes were identified. “Post-loss dynamics of confrontation and avoidance”, “the ongoing experience of motherhood” and “seeking support: the ipmact of social environment and expectations”. The findings explores the complex emotional and relational dynamics of grief in mothers, focusing on their struggles with the dilemma of confrontation and avoidance, the experiences of ongoing motherhood, and the healing or complicating effects of social support. The importance of the study findings for preventive and clinical practices in this regard is discussed.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Child loss , grief , parental grief , interpretative phenomenological analysis

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