Benlik Saygısı ile İlişki Bağımlılığı Arasındaki İlişkide Affetme Bir Aracı Mıdır?

Yıl 2023, , 527 - 558, 31.12.2023

Yüksel Erdogdu , Ayşe Turanlı

https://doi.org/10.31679/adamakademi.1163891

Öz

Bu araştırmada benlik saygısı ile ilişki bağımlılığı arasındaki ilişkide affetmenin çoklu aracılığı incelenmiştir. Araştırmanın katılımcıları 325’si kadın (% 65), 175’i erkek (%35) olmak üzere 520 kişiden oluşmaktadır. Araştırmada iki boyutlu benlik saygısı , affetme ve ilişki bağımlılığı ölçekleri kullanılmıştır. Bu araştırmada, bireylerin benlik alt ölçek puanları ile ilişki bağımlılığı arasındaki ilişkide affetme alt ölçek puanlarının aracılık rolü incelenmiştir. Araştırma ilişkisel tarama modeli ile gerçekleştirilmiştir. Yapısal eşitlik modeli yardımıyla değişkenler arasındaki nedensel ilişkiler saptanmaya çalışılmıştır Araştırma bulgularına göre kendini sevme ve öz yeterlilik ilişki bağımlılığını negatif yönde anlamlı bir şekilde yordamaktadır. Kendini sevme kendini affetmeyi pozitif yönde, başkalarını ve durumu affetmeyi negatif yönde anlamlı bir şekilde yordamaktadır. Öz yeterlilik ise kendini, başkalarını ve durumu affetmeyi pozitif yönde anlamlı bir şekilde yordamaktadır. Kendini sevme ve öz yeterliliğin ilişki bağımlılığı üzerindeki doğrudan etkileri anlamlıdır. Bununla birlikte kendini affetme, başkasını affetme ve durumu affetme aracı değişkenleri modele dahil edildiğinde bu ilişki anlamsızlaşmaktadır. Bu durum kendini affetme, başkasını affetme ve durumu affetmenin tam aracı rolünde olduğunu ortaya koymaktadır. Sonuç olarak ilişki bağımlılığının önlenmesinde benlik saygısının yükseltilmesinin ve bireylerde affetme becerilerinin kazandırılmasının oldukça önemli olduğu görülmektedir.

Anahtar Kelimeler

İlişki bağımlılığı, Affetme, Kendini sevme, öz yeterlik, Benlik saygısı, Self-Liking, Self-Efficacy

Does forgiveness play a mediating role in the relationship between self-esteem and codependency?

Öz

This study examines the multiple mediation of forgiveness in the relationship between self-esteem and codependency. The participants of the study consist of 520 individuals, 325 of whom are women (65%) and 175 of whom are men (35%). Two dimensional self-esteem, forgiveness and codependency scale were used in the study. According to the results of the study, self-liking and self-competency significantly predict codependency negatively. Self-liking significantly predicts forgiveness of self positively and forgiveness of others and forgiveness of situations negatively. Self-competence significantly predicts forgiveness of self, others and situations positively. Self-liking and self-competence have significant direct effects on codependency. However, this correlation becomes insignificant when mediating variables of forgiveness of self, forgiveness of others and forgiveness of situations are included in the model. This result shows that forgiveness of self, forgiveness of others and forgiveness of situations have a full mediating role. As a result, it can be seen that increasing self-esteem and teaching individuals the skills to forgive are very important in preventing codependency.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Codependency, Forgiveness, Self-esteem, Self-Liking, Self-Efficacy

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