Büyük ebeveyn ve ebeveyn bakış açılarından büyük ebeveyn-torun ilişkisi

Yıl 2021, Cilt: 7 Sayı: 16, 568 - 586, 30.10.2021

Betül Kübra Şahin Yonca , Fatma Tezel Şahin

Öz

Tarama modelinde desenlenmiş bu çalışma, büyükanne ve büyükbabaların torunlarıyla olan ilişkilerini hem kendi bakış açılarından hem de çocukların ebeveynlerinin bakış açılarından incelemektedir. Veri toplamak için Ebeveyn Soru Formu, Büyük Ebeveyn Soru Formu ve Kişisel Bilgi Formu kullanılan çalışmanın katılımcılarını, 484 büyük ebeveyn ve 484 ebeveyn oluşturmuştur. Çalışmanın bulguları, büyükanne ve büyükbabaların 1) büyük ebeveynliğin ebeveynlik gibi olduğu, 2) torun sahibi olmadan önce şimdi yaşadıkları duyguları yaşayacaklarını hayal etmedikleri, 3) torunlarını dünyadaki her şeyden çok sevdikleri ve 4) torunlarıyla oynamaktan ve onlara masal anlatmaktan çocukların ebeveynlerinin kabul ettiğinden daha fazla keyif aldıklarına ilişkin maddelere katıldıklarını göstermiştir. Ayrıca, büyük ebeveynlerin günümüzde insanların daha geç çocuk sahibi olmaya karar verdikleri ve torunlarına kendi çocuklarından daha fazla tolerans gösterdikleri yönündeki ifadelere örneklemi oluşturan ebeveynlerden daha fazla katıldıkları belirlenmiştir. Bununla birlikte, ebeveynler çocuklarıyla yeterli zaman geçirmedikleri maddesine büyük ebeveynlerden daha fazla katılmaktadırlar.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Büyük ebeveynler, Ebeveynler, Torun, İlişki, Okul öncesi dönem

Grandparent-grandchild relationships from the perspectives of grandparents and parents

Öz

This survey-based study examines Turkish grandparents’ relationships with their grandchildren, both from their own perspectives and from those of the children’s parents. A Parent Question Form, Grandparent Question Form and Personal Information Form were used to collect data from 484 grandparents and 484 parents. The grandparents tended to agree with items suggesting 1) that grandparenting was like parenting; 2) that before having a grandchild, they had not imagined they would experience the feelings they were experiencing now; 3) that they loved their grandchildren more than anything in the world; and 4) that they enjoyed playing with their grandchildren and telling them fairy tales more than the children’s parents agreed. They also were more likely than the sampled parents to agree with the statements that, nowadays, people decided to have children later in life, and that grandparents tolerated their grandchildren more than they did their own children. However, the parents were more likely than the grandparents to agree that parents spend an inadequate amount of time with their children.

Anahtar Kelimeler

Grandparents, Parents, Grandchildren, Relationship, Preschool period

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