Losing Childhood Along with the Father: Father loss, Sibling Relationships and Family Resilience

Öz

The purpose of this study is to examine the family resilience and the role of sibling relations among family members who have lost their father in the last five years. Criterion sampling method was employed in the study, which is considered one of the purposeful sampling methods. 10 people was included in the study chosen based on the following criteria: (I) having lost the father in the last five years (II) continuing the university education (III) having at least one sibling in the house (IV) having a living parent; (V) the fact that the living parent is not remarried. In the study, data were collected through semi-structured interviews and analyzed through descriptive methods. The results show that the management styles and family belief systems in the family, as well as the close, supportive relationships, are important and powerful qualities in the positive development of the family in cases of a father loss. These results are particularly of importance about the identification of characteristics of family strenghts and the understanding of sibling relationships. Specific interventions, plans, and suggestions in the cultural context were introduced to strengthen positive family life and family resilience. 

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Family resilience
• sibling relationship
• father lost
• family protective factors

Varlığında Çocuk, Yokluğunda Yetişkin Olmak: Baba Kaybı, Kardeş İlişkileri ve Aile Yılmazlığı

Öz

Bu çalışmanın amacı, son beş yıl içinde babasını kaybetmiş bireylerde aile yılmazlığının derinlemesine incelenerek, kardeş ilişkilerinin rolünü değerlendirmektir. Bir ebeveynin kaybı pek çok kişinin yaşamında önemli dönüm noktalarından biri olmaktadır. Yaşanan kayıp karşısında değişen aile sistemine, aile üyeleri var olan kaynakları kullanarak üstesinden gelmeye çalışmaktadırlar. Bu bağlamda ailede ki etkileşim süreçleri ve aile alt sistemi olarak kardeşler arasındaki ilişkinin niteliği ve rolü önemli faktörlerdir. Araştırmada amaçlı örnekleme yöntemlerinden biri olan ölçüt örnekleme yöntemi kullanılmıştır. Araştırmaya bu kapsamda, (I) son beş yıl içinde babayı kaybetmiş olma, (II) bir üniversitede öğrenimine devam etme, (III) aynı ev ortamını paylaştığı en az bir kardeşe sahip olma, (IV) birlikte yaşadığı ebeveynin hayatta olması, (V) şuan yaşayan ebeveynin yeniden evlenmemesi ölçüt olarak belirlenen 10 kişi dâhil edilmiştir. Araştırmada veriler yarı yapılandırılmış görüşme formu aracılığı ile toplanmıştır. Verilerin analizinde, betimsel analiz tekniğinden yararlanılmıştır. Sonuçlar yaşanılan baba kaybından sonra aile yılmazlığını değerlendirmede, ailede var olan yönetim şekillerinin ve aile inanç sistemlerinin,  aynı zamanda kardeşler arasındaki yakın, destekleyici ilişki yapılarının ve rol değişiminin, ailede pozitif gelişimi sağlamada önemli ve güçlü nitelikler olduğunu ortaya koymaktadır. Elde edilen bu sonuçlar özellikle de kültürel bağlamda aile de yaşanılan kayıp sonrasında ailelerin güçlü özelliklerinin belirlenmesi ve önemli bir ilişki türü olan kardeş ilişkilerin anlaşılması açısından ışık tutucu niteliktedir. Araştırmanın sonuçlarına dayalı olarak pozitif aile gelişimini sağlayan, aile yılmazlığını güçlendirmede kültürel bağlamda müdahale, planlamalar ve öneriler sunulmuştur. 

Anahtar Kelimeler

• Aile yılmazlığı
• kardeş ilişkileri
• baba kaybı
• aile koruyucu faktörleri

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